So here we are again, family crisis #2. Even though I know from my previous experiences that I should not put expectations on people to act in a particular way, I can't help it! I've already been pleasantly surprised, annoyed, shocked and hurt by how the people around me are responding to my dad's diagnosis, to my dad himself, and to me. I've found myself getting stressed about those who aren't acting like I thought they would. Today, I'm trying to reel myself in and stop stressing, because I certainly have enough on my plate already. Somehow, I've got to learn to just lean on those who are offering, and not worry about those who aren't. But that is easier said than done!
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Everybody hurts...differently
As I've mentioned this is not the first time my family is going through a traumatic medical situation, Back then I not only witnessed how my mom, brother, and I all dealt with my dad's accident in our own ways, but also how our friends and family members did as well. I found that there are just some people who thrive during a crisis. They are the first people to show up at the hospital to sit by your side, or the ones who will buy you groceries and who will make you meals. These people aren't always your closest family or friends, but in the thick of things that doesn't matter to you or to them. Then there are others who will disappoint you when you need them the most. I've seen both ends of the spectrum first hand. As a matter of fact, I've had nothing to do with my grandmother since 1997, you may guess where she fell on the spectrum.
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What a great thing for you to write about your experience with you dad. I think it not only can help you, but others around you too. I wish I would have done something like this when I was going through Greg's illness.
ReplyDeleteYour exactly right about how you never know who is going to be there for you when the going gets tough. I was surprised as some of the peopole that were there for me, and surprised and hurt at the people that I always thought would be there for me, but never were. You can't stress yourself about that. Cherish the people that are there for you during this time.
I hate to hear of anyone going through anything like this...it's so unfair...but your dad is very lucky to have you. Try and take care of yourself during this too...it's hard, but necessary. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Rolanda